Posted by: winterjasminereiki | August 28, 2010

Guest blog by belifehappy ~ introduction to nlp

introduction to nlp

What would happen if you could understand what your manager was saying to you?
What would happen if you understood whether the man across the bar fancied you?
What would happen if you could hit that hole in one?
What would happen if you could change your career?
What would happen if you could finally get that diet right?

It sounds like magic…and although it isn’t, it really does feel like it! NLP (neuro linguistic programming) creates change consciously and now.

Neuro Linguistic Programming was founded in the late 1970’s by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. Based on research and observation of hypnotherapy and other psychotherapy treatments a range of ‘tools’ were created within NLP to identify and change our beliefs and values in order to achieve and be who we want to be.

NLP works with our internal and external representational system of what we see, feel, hear, understand, taste and smell, our attitudes, values and beliefs. We learn all of these through childhood, so what would you think now if I told you, you can re-learn these? We file away our experiences, thoughts and feelings, and how we do this affects how and what we do everyday, from fearing to drive, thinking you’re not good enough for that promotion, to wishing you could really get on with your diet.

We have on average 60,000 thoughts each day which is why our personal filters come in great use to help us focus on everyday, allowing our conscious mind to action our thoughts and our unconscious mind to feel and create. However, as we grow and change so do our values and beliefs and sometimes we are just not in alignment and therefore no change occurs…just that we are ‘going to try.’

Becoming aware of our feelings and controlling our thoughts creates great self empowerment. However in order to move forward we are required to learn and release the negative aspects of our past.  As I’ve just mentioned we file and store all our experiences from childhood.  Our unconscious does not process negatives, therefore it will, when a similar unresolved experience occurs, reveal itself to you, to your conscious for you to have another chance to learn and release.  These negative emotions are categorised into these 5 areas: anger, sadness, fear, hurt and guilt.  This is why we have a tendency to repeat negative patterns of behaviour because we haven’t accepted and learnt from the experience and emotion. Using Time Line Therapy™ a coach will guide you back to the  first event in which each emotion was experienced, allowing you to learn from it and subsequently release the emotion and all following experiences right up to now! In some cases this therapy removes limiting beliefs and values and creates HUGE shifts for you to BE and to DO.

Communication and language is a huge area within NLP where you can discover more about how we communicate with others and how they communicate with us.  Of our communication 93% is unconscious. ONLY 7% of our communication is the words we use. 38% is the tone of our voice and 55% is our physiology (body language).

Communication is a very important part of our lives. We do it constantly and not always consciously! So learning how you communicate can help you personally and professionally. NLP looks at:

Eye patterns

Relating to our emotions and thought processes, therefore you can see where the person you are talking to is recalling their information.

Physiology & Body Language

Has a great impact on your communication, either face to face or on the telephone.  In face to face situations mirroring body language is a great tip for building rapport.

Sensory acuity

Awareness of changes to our skin tonus, colour, breathing, lower lip size and as above, our eyes. For example the tone of you skin changes depending on whether you are talking about something positive or negative!

So once you have learned how to make your 93% of communication more effective, NLP introduces you to look at the language you use and how you use it.  There are four representational systems for the way we communicate, either through seeing, feeling, hearing or understanding logically (visual, kinesthetic, auditory, auditory digital) and we each will have a stronger, priority representational system…we really do speak a different language!

NLP opens the door to self awareness and awareness of others.

Understanding the effects of the language you use helps you change and select words and a representational system which gets your message across and delivers the results you want.

Now you know just how powerful your mind is, can you image what would happen if you could create your dream goals and make them happen? Using SMART goals and all the representational systems to create a “movie scene” of your goal, seeing it, feeling it, hearing it and being there, making it brighter, sharper, bigger, and louder, you intensify your mind and body to align with your goal and then using Time Line Therapy™ you can place your goal in your future!

Our mind and bodies communicate. We require inner balance and alignment of our values and beliefs to our dreams to be able to live those dreams.  NLP helps you discover what is blocking you and removes those blocks with you so you CAN DO and WILL DO!

The key areas of your life NLP can help are:

  • Personal & professional relationships
  • Health, fitness & weight management
  • Sports achievement
  • Fears and phobias
  • Stress & time management
  • Confidence & communication
  • Releasing negative behaviour patterns
  • Learning & motivational strategies

NLP simply opens the door with you.  How we feel in our body is a response to how we have been thinking, and with NLP coaching you begin to learn how to be in control of your thoughts and create YOUR life.

Written by Emma Lannigan, founder of belifehappy
Restoring & maintaining balance in your life.


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